tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8469202287697783630.post5160568836115170496..comments2023-10-18T07:53:46.488-04:00Comments on Nice White Lady: Aging gracefully (or not)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8469202287697783630.post-66691454468194693592010-11-30T11:33:36.371-05:002010-11-30T11:33:36.371-05:00Nine years ago I was 46 and still considered fairl...Nine years ago I was 46 and still considered fairly striking (never pretty nor beautiful in the usual sense). But the stresses of health and finances have worn me down and now at 55 I look twenty years older than I do in photos from nine years ago. I've stopped trying, I guess. In a way it has been liberating--there's no concern about looking "attractive" and "kept up" like my mother still does to this day. And I feel sad for younger women, and especially for those my own age, who still look like they're trying too hard. Interesting post, and will have to check out those books.Meghttp://minimalistwoman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8469202287697783630.post-33660037583686483892010-11-27T22:02:22.432-05:002010-11-27T22:02:22.432-05:00Thanks for touching on an important conversation m...Thanks for touching on an important conversation missing from the mainstream. My own mother and I struggle with these issues. This might not make sense but one thing that bothers me is the constant mantra of looking one's best, looking thin or young or "everyone is beautiful". While I do agree human beings are beautiful in a spiritual and corporeal sense, it seems these cultural messages drown out any room to express our "ugly" or our "plain" - both words I identify with. I'd love to self-express how I find my corporeal form without people being uncomfortable or rushing in with, "Oh no you're not fat!" Or "No you're totally pretty!"<br /><br />I kind of feel like I never WAS very pretty... and I'm OK with that.kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08183686721305419157noreply@blogger.com